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Meghan Markle: The fashion sacrifice the Duchess of Sussex makes every time she attends events with - Duration: 2:47.

 Meghan Markle and the Queen appear to be getting on like a house on fire, as the Duchess of Sussex attends many royal engagements with Prince Harry's grandmother

   Kate Middleton's sister-in-law looks confident when out and about with the monarch, while still letting her take the lead at royal events

   In the same way, Meghan also ensures she doesn't outshine the Queen with her outfits by making a fashion sacrifice

   Everyone knows the Queen is famous for her bright outfits, with the monarch previously explaining she does it to help the public see her in a crowd

  Top Stories Five Meghan Markle looks you can recreate on the high street This missed moment from Meghan Markle's latest royal engagement is causing a huge debate  With that in mind, it appears Meghan is ensuring the Queen is the focal point when they're out together as she opts for more plain colours with her outfits

   For their first event together, which was a visit to church on Christmas Day in 2017, Meghan chose a brown coat and brown fascinator while the Queen stood out in bright orange

   Following her wedding to Prince Harry, Meghan and the Queen visited Chesire, which was the former Suits actress' first solo event with Queen Elizabeth II

   While Prince William's grandmother stunned in a lime suit, Meghan made sure she was considerate with the outfit in a cream dress

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   While Meghan usually sticks to black, grey and navy, she has been known to experiment with brighter shades including green and yellow

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another new bowling place let's check it out

whoa whoa whoa whoa hold it hold it where do you think you're going to get

boba no uh no naked people allowed new policy but we're naked always not my

problem get some clothes or get lost oh it's

okay pain Pam we'll figure something out hmm an idea ah good thinking Grizz I

guess we can get rid of these clothes now know about you guys but I'm keeping

mine me this suit is great I feel so important perfectly good too young feels

comfortable huh sir please sit down or do you want to get your whole company

late for work huh hey are you are you the new guy yeah that's me I'm one of

you guys Green's dweet bed where did he go I put ice a desert I thought you

meant desert

well I guess he made some new friends well throwing trash on the ground eh

you're under arrest no I was just I mean I'm just playing with you oh I like your

cardigan by the way actually I like your overall style man

really I'm Sam by the way oh I'm panda wait you're a panda and your name's

Panda yeah that is so funny oh I guess that is kind of weird so what's up with

the extra seat on your bike uh huh are you asking me if I have a boyfriend

oh no I wasn't trying to I just know I don't have anyone to ride this bike with

oh okay cool okay that's awesome sir sir over here please Ice Bear will

destroy paparazzi oh excuse me man I'm actually a fashion photographer I just

love your look a simple color scheme the composition just love the minimalist

style you're going for it thanks man nice bear happy to help I love the way

you talk hey you got some time I have some friends that you should really meet

Ice Bears down to meet some friends

Oh

we'll have those TPS reports ready for delivery tomorrow morning this is fun

going come on new guy hey everyone I want you to meet the new

guy new guy I didn't know there was a job opening what if they got you doing

um office stuff funny newbie you're gonna fit right in here new guy

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hey great work fantastic loving it just great hello employee hey I thought I

told you fellas this up groveling at my feet you must be new what's your name

son Oh gross Grizz huh let me guess first day you know casual I

like it how are you enjoying it here what can this company do to be better

dude sick Baker hmm unorthodox and bold I like it in fact I'm gonna give you a

promotion director of presentations how does that sound

okay fantastic I want a presentation by the end of the day present what I expect

big things from you but I don't even know this company does

trust me

lady wait what

where you going wait wait what I can't go up there

chicken fine why are we here I'm so wet and cold and miserable right now

stop it you sound like my whiny eggs huh panda what are you huh oh my gosh oh my

gosh yes I will marry you wait no I wasn't I'm so happy what I was just I

love you you love me oh we need to tell daddy I can't wait to see a surprise

face

yes fabulous okay taking a quick break mmm that looks a bit too chubby swimming

down a bit that doesn't look like ice bear oh hey there you know I I wouldn't

worry about this stuff right now here come on let's go get you ready

voila he is perfection na young he's not we're

gonna pull back the tissue here merge these layers to really accentuate the

fur grain we're just gonna get rid of this all together and done you're gonna

be beautiful perfect Ice Bear won't go under the knife what okay Wendy I'm

gonna need a bucket of concealer and a girdle doing I don't even know what this

company is called

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Miami Heat guard Dwyane Wade pulled no punches while trolling his former teammate.

No NBA player is safe from Miami Heat guard Dwyane Wade on social media.

While the veteran has trolled plenty of players over the years, he was back at it again this week.

Wade's most recent target was one of his former teammates in Cleveland Cavaliers big man Tristan Thompson.

While Wade only played 46 games of the 2017-18 season with the Cavaliers, he and Thompson are apparently close enough to throw shade at each other.

Either that or Wade is just incredibly savage on Instagram.

As CBC Athletes revealed, Wade commented on Thompson's Instagram photo from Cavaliers' media day.

The message was simple – less baby oil, Tristan.

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Wade's Short Cavaliers Tenure, Return to Miami.

Wade, who's currently 36-years-old, opted to team up with close friend LeBron James on the Cavaliers last season but was eventually sent back to his original team to finish his career.

The 12-time NBA All-Star has made it known the 2018-19 season will be his final, and he re-signed with Miami on a one-year deal.

Over the span of just under 14 seasons with the team who selected him No.

5 in the 2003 NBA Draft, Wade averaged 23.4 points, 5.7 assists and 4.8 rebounds per game.

Throughout his short stint with Cleveland, the veteran posted averages of 11.2 points, 3.9 rebounds and 3.5 rebounds over 23.2 minutes per game.

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Optimized Geek E162: Evolve Your Style with Fashion Expert Lauren Friedman - Duration: 1:00:47.

Lauren, it's great to have

you on the show.

Thank you so much for having me.

Let's talk about style and fashion.

Why should people even care about style if they want to be a better person or take their

life to the next level?

Where do fashion and style fit in?

Is it superficial?

Is there something more powerful about it that we should know about?

This is one of my favorite topics to talk about, so I'm thrilled to answer that question.

I think that style and fashion get a bad rep for being something that's superficial because

it's something that you put on your body.

It's not a deep thing, but I completely disagree with that.

The choice that we make every day in what we put on our bodies is quite profound.

Anyone will tell you that how they feel wearing a nice pair of slacks versus sweatpants have

a big impact on your mood.

I'm interested not much in buying new things or following trends as they go through the

seasons, but taking a deep dive into what that inner voice wants to wear and honoring

that in order to present the most authentic version of yourself to the outside world.

Style and fashion are way beyond just clothes.

They are a tangible way for us to communicate something with the world and in a powerful

way.

Whether or not you're interested in style or fashion, I don't think that matters.

What matters is that you have to acknowledge the point that people are going to judge you

no matter what you're wearing.

We all as humans, that is our methodology of moving through the world, is making snap

judgments about people.

Whether or not you want to play into that game is fine.

Defining yourself from the inside out can have a powerful impact on how you see yourself

and how the rest of the world sees you.

It's basically putting yourself back in the driver's seat because you do acknowledge

that people are going to judge regardless.

Why not wear something that helps you to feel empowered, powerful, capable and whatever

other feelings you want to have and be in the driver's seat?

Being in the driver's seat is a great way of putting it.

You have to put on clothes anyway.

Why not have some agency in that?

It's fun or it's not, but I find that it can be such a joyful process of my day.

Getting dressed is a big aspect of my self-care.

It's something that I make a priority for myself.

It gives me almost as much satisfaction, if not more, to help that with other people.

To see how other people can respond in such a positive way when they're wearing something

that makes them feel confident, it's like having a superpower, honestly.

I love sharing that with other people.

I'm all about being intentional.

If I'm more intentional about what I wear, that's one way that I manifest my intentionality.

I do my best to be as intentional as possible about what I put into my body, what food I

eat and the supplements I take.

I want to be intentional about what clothes I wear too so that I'm showing up in the

world in the way that I want to show up.

One thing that intrigued me and I wanted to delve deeper into is this concept of confidence.

If I can show up more confident, will I also then be more confident?

Was it Amy Cuddy who had this power poses TED Talk where she talked about the Wonder

Woman stance?

Yes.

When I was in middle school, I was going through a regular teenage angst period.

My mother said something to me that I have never forgotten, which is your reality is

what you make of it.

If you want to be sad, your reality will be sad.

If you want to be confident, your reality will include confidence.

I can't overstate the importance of these tangible acts in our life having intangible

effects.

We all serve to try and get better at all things, be better people and treat others

with respect.

Whatever your goals are, they are constantly moving and changing.

Sometimes it can be difficult to enact change when it's something in your brain or in

your thoughts that takes so much work.

I love this idea of almost tricking yourself.

It's not the best word choice.

It's how the physicality of putting on a nice outfit, cleaning up your desk before

you go to work, or these things that you can do with your hands and see with your eyes,

feel and touch.

I love that they're almost a shortcut for this intentionality.

We all have our own efforts.

I meditate every morning and I do think about having a mindfulness practice in my life.

There's something very easy-going, uplifting and relaxing to me when it's something like

putting on my clothes.

It seems more approachable to me because I have to do it anyways.

Whereas doing something that has more of an intangible effect can be a little intimidating

for some.

The sooner we reclaim that power of what style and fashion can be, the sooner then we can

also step forth into those other goals that we may have as human beings.

Are there particular clothing items, accessories or something that would help us tap into our

confidence?

I'm thinking specifically of another guest on my show, Todd Herman, who had this whole

story about him using eyeglasses as a prop.

That's the wrong word, but it's an anchor for him.

When he wears them, even though he's got perfect eyesight, he doesn't need glasses.

When he puts them on, it accesses his alter ego.

Then the alter ego, he's got this superpower of this powerful stage presence, and all these

skills and abilities are heightened.

That gets him into that zone and into a flow state.

That's the perfect example of what I'm talking about.

It's been an interesting process.

While I was researching my third book, 50 Ways to Wear Accessories, I've found that

accessories are the most profound things we humans wear.

We've been wearing accessories as long as we have been humans.

They have found jewelry and all different types of articles of adornment from really

early discoveries of human remains.

They are this universal thread that connects us to our past, our present and our future.

I found that they have almost this talismanic, amuletic, special and profound purpose that

I find differs a little bit from clothes.

That eyeglass example is such a perfect example.

My father's mother, my Grandmother Enid, she was a huge style influence for me mostly

after her passing.

I'm the only granddaughter.

I inherited most of her stuff.

She was a huge clothes horse.

The act of wearing her things has become a guiding light through my life.

I wear something of hers almost every single day.

Just putting some of that quick magic around accessories, like the person that you become

when you wear eyeglasses, for me, it's putting on something of my grandmother's.

There is something quite profound, special and magical about putting on any accessory

that transports you into a different realm or place.

The stuff from my grandmother is a big one.

I'm never without my Timex watch.

It's a men's watch.

It's waterproof and it has a light.

It has a timer, which I find myself using all the time.

Though the watch will never leave my side, the accessories, I get a lot of joy from the

variety in my life.

I like choosing a different accessory for every day.

Getting dressed in this way is a story for me.

I am also a writer.

I love fiction.

I've always been a storyteller.

Waking up and saying, "Today I'm wearing a summer camp counselor, cutoff jeans and

a baseball shirt."

I put on a pair of earrings that would look like you made them in the arts and crafts

cabin.

Or that I am taking a trip to Paris after working in Egypt all summer.

These are fun ways of tapping into what my creative self likes to do, which tell these

stories through getting dressed.

Accessories, they are the exclamation point of that story.

They are what make the story what it is.

How do you know which accessories to wear if you're not a stylist and you're not

a fashionista-type of person?

I don't think of myself as being terribly fashionable, but my wife is very good at it,

so I end up looking good when I go out.

If I didn't have her around, let's say I was on a trip somewhere or it was just me

on a business trip, I would want her to help me pick out my clothes, accessories and everything

when I was packing to leave.

I made sure I knew what to wear, especially if I'm going to be on stage speaking.

I don't normally wear suits anymore, but I used to.

I'm thinking of one particular accessory that I never figured out, and that was a pocket

square.

I've never used it.

I don't know why people use it, when or what the rules are around it.

I put that in the too hard basket.

My wife doesn't have experience with pocket squares, so it's in the too hard basket.

Can you demystify this for me and for our readers?

Here's my shameless plug for 50 Ways to Wear Accessories.

My hope is that by picking it up, there will be an expert who lives in your closet.

Stephan, I'm looking at your homepage.

The photo that you have of yourself for The Optimized Geek, you're wearing a suit jacket

and a white-collared shirt which is open.

I love a pocket square, specifically in this outfit.

When you don't have a tie on, this pocket square, like any other accessory, adds what

I call the dig.

The dig is a term that a friend and I had described as that one element that takes your

outfit to the next level.

It takes it to the top notch.

I have a crazy pair of shoes and I'm wearing it with a black dress, that's the dig.

I have a fabulous purse with a scarf tied on it, and that is the dig of the outfit.

For pockets square specifically, it's mathematics.

You have two extreme positives here with a suit and a white button-up shirt, which are

reserved, professional and buttoned up.

By adding in a pocket square, which I would say is the dig in this outfit, it's the

negative to those positives.

It adds something that says, "I'm here.

I thought about my outfit.

I am approachable because I'm adding a little bit of something to set me apart without being

overpowering."

It sounds like since a pocket square is already in the difficult category for you, it might

feel too much if you had a tie on with a pocket square.

If you're doing this open-collared shirt with a blazer, a pocket square is a nice way

of introducing another layer of texture and color.

It's not difficult to use them.

You can gently fold it and place it in there and a little bit peeks out.

It adds a nice element that says, "I put a little bit of thought into this," which

shows a level of respect to the people that you're working with that you honor and value

their presence by putting in those thoughtful touches.

It shows attention to detail like, "If he's that attentive to detail with his outfit,

maybe he'll be that attentive working with me when he's coaching me, when he's consulting,

meeting my internet marketing, my SEO or whatever."

The first step is showing respect for yourself.

It also shows respect for other people, especially in a professional context.

You don't want to let your style overwhelm your message, your brand or your vision.

Those small touches can show that attention to detail which can be appealing for someone

if you're in a position of looking for consulting work or being hired.

It's a fun way of adding something individualistic to what could be a generic blazer and shirt.

How would you pick the pattern or the color?

Is there some science to that or some set of rules?

I'm looking at this picture on your homepage.

I see that you have blue eyes.

When you are having a professional photograph taken or you're appearing on camera, an

easy trick to uplift your look is to match to your eyes.

For you, I would think a pocket square that has some light blue detail in it is going

to make everything pop.

It's almost continuously in more ways to serve this thoughtfulness.

Not only did you think about putting on a pocket square, but you also took it to the

next level where you acknowledged, "This looks good with my eyes."

For women, wearing earrings which match your eye color if you're having a professional

photo taken, or wearing a shirt or a dress that complements your eye color, it adds such

a nice polish.

It makes your eyes sparkle, which makes everyone more appealing.

That's a great place to start.

Colors all have a message, in the same way that accessories have a message.

It's a unique and illuminating practice to start to pay attention to how colors make

you feel and how you would like other people to feel with those colors.

If you're going on a date and you want to display some passion, red is such a nice place

to go.

If you want to convey a message of friendliness and congeniality, something with yellow, something

bright and joyful, orange.

The list can go on and on.

These color symbols and these symbols that we incorporate in our lives are subconscious

for much of us.

There's a big opportunity, especially in a business setting, to pay attention to them

and take advantage of them.

One of my tips in 50 Ways to Wear Accessories is geared towards women, but this could definitely

relate towards men.

If you are wearing a brooch, think about whether you're wearing it to cover up your heart

or to leave your heart open.

Maybe you are in a context where you're giving a big presentation and you want to

feel as if you have your armor on.

You might put up something that covers up your heart.

Whereas if you are in a speaking engagement or meeting with someone where you want to

be vulnerable and open yourself up, then you think about leaving your heart open.

It's a pleasure for me to think about these, I guess you could call them spiritual, you

could call them intentional, whatever your method of accessing a higher power is.

These are things that you put on your body that can be tools for accessing that.

When you were talking about being open, vulnerable and having your heart open, it reminded me

of something that I learned from Neil Strauss.

He wrote the book The Game and The Truth.

I learned from Neil that scarves are something that women wear to protect themselves so that

they're not vulnerable.

When you're speaking to a woman who is wearing a scarf, it's like she's got a shield

up.

I once had a girlfriend who wore scarves a lot.

It became apparent that she was guarded, protecting herself all the time.

That is an example of an accessory that was used in a defensive measure.

In this day and age, and as from my perspective as a woman, in light of the #MeToo Movement,

it's been an interesting thought process of starting to tease out which messages I

have internalized that are external messages and which messages are things that are coming

truly from me.

When I was living in DC, I lived on a busy street.

Without even thinking about it, I would get dressed based on how much attention I would

get walking down that street.

It would be often a defensive thing.

I needed to make sure to have a jacket on, a scarf or a bag that covered up my body.

It's a different side of the same coin that I'm talking about the intentionality and

the access to a higher power that you can use through accessories.

By that same token, you can also guard yourself against the world with them.

I don't think it's a negative thing if it's something that makes people feel safer.

For women who choose to wear a hijab or have their head covered, whatever someone's reason

is for these things, it's important to respect.

As I went on this journey of diving into accessories and doing research about them on every facet,

it gave me a deeper commitment to my accessories and also a greater respect for why other people

chose theirs.

My hope too is that through this work that I'm doing with styling, writing and illustrating,

people not only will have a greater respect and commitment to their own accessories, but

they'll also respect that there are differences amongst all of us.

Ultimately, we're all the same inside.

We all may have different reasons for reaching for different things.

Ultimately, inside we are all just human beings in that respect for whatever someone is bringing

to the table on that day.

It can be informed by someone who is aware of the different ways that people can be living

and struggling in the world at that time.

Another way that people sometimes will wear accessories or certain items of clothing is

to peacock.

That's another term and idea that I learned from Neil Strauss.

It's a way to stand out, get noticed and allow people of the opposite sex or whatever

you're trying to attract, to notice you.

They have something to comment about if they decided to come up and chat with you.

That might be a furry hat, a feather in your cap or something.

They're like, "That's interesting," and then they would talk about it.

The New York Times, and it's in the Thursday Style section, they have been putting up an

old article from the past, reviewing it and talking about how things have changed.

One of the more recent ones was this 2004 article about male pickup artists.

I believe it's called The Game.

The man featured in this article was wearing this big furry hat.

Apparently, it was effective in 2004.

To wear something that catches someone's eye, to attract attention, it's definitely

a method that can work for a lot of people.

I was single for a long time.

I spent lots of time dating and lots of time meeting new people.

It was an important thing for me to learn a lot about myself.

I found that as that process went on, I began to dress less and less peacocky.

I found that I wanted almost a uniform in those situations so that it was a controlled

measure.

The date was going to be different, but I could be the same.

I knew that I could control.

That meant for me wearing mostly black and white, choosing the same dress or the same

shirt.

Making that conscious choice in order to determine whether my date at that time was interested

in me as a human being, or interested in my superficial characteristics.

There's a fine line between that.

That was an interesting experience for my life at the time.

Now that we are reflecting on some of the aftermaths of the #MeToo Movement and thinking

about peacocking or attracting attention in a way that sometimes can feel insincere.

Accessories can be something that is a method through which we can understand each other

a little bit more.

One thing that came to my mind when you were talking about your experience dating and that

you wanted to be more in control of what you could control, every date, every potential

suitor you didn't know what you were going to get.

It's risky.

You put yourself out there and the person might be a serial killer.

It reminded me of an interview I did with Alison Armstrong.

We talked about how dating, if it's done well, is a fast-sorting process, especially

for the woman.

She wants to move on as quickly as possible to the next person if it's not a fit.

Don't drag it out.

Get through these people as quickly as possible until you find the right person.

Are you familiar with Alison Armstrong?

I have heard of her but I'm not too familiar with her work.

She's fantastic.

I'm a huge fan.

Tony Robbins teaches some of her stuff too.

That's how I first found out about her.

The fast-sorting process is important if you're out on the dating scene.

As a woman too, there were certain accessorizing elements which made my fast-sorting process

as a hetero-woman.

The number one for me is I could not stand when a man wore flip-flops on a date.

I'm not one to follow too many rules or say a sweeping thing that no one should do.

It was an immediate turn off for me and I know it is an immediate turnoff for most women

that I know.

Whether or not you heard it here first, men, please do not wear flip-flops.

Is it because it's disrespectful?

I did find it to feel disrespectful.

It showed to me that this person didn't bring the same amount of effort that I had.

That there was a lack of acknowledgment of the significance of the moment, which is like,

"Here we are making a first impression toward each other, and I'm looking at your dirty

toes.

I don't think this is going to work for me."

I do think that there was a method of disrespect.

It made me think maybe their life isn't together in other ways because they were wearing

flip-flops.

Whether or not that is fair to assume about someone when it comes to dating, you can make

your own assumptions based on whatever you feel.

That was how I interpreted those flip-flops.

They say how you do one thing is how you do everything.

If you show lack of care and attention in preparing for a date, that's going to show

up in your work, it's going to show up in your family relationships, it will show up

everywhere.

Taking that time in the morning to put care into your outfit is something that is a trickledown

effect for the rest of my day.

It goes both ways with that.

I read that Mark Zuckerberg has a whole wardrobe

of the same T-shirt and the same pants.

He wears the same exact outfit every single day.

That is bizarre to me.

Logically, I can understand that he doesn't want to waste his precious cognitive resources

on figuring out what outfit to wear.

Decision fatigue is a real thing.

Every decision you make, you have less resource left to make further decisions so don't

waste any of your precious finite resource for the day on decisions that don't matter.

I guess for him, what he wears doesn't matter to him.

I would love to hear your take on this.

I have traveled quite a bit.

I know for myself for a fact that I could not be that person.

When I wear the same thing every day, by the end of even a week or two weeks, I don't

ever want to look at what I'm looking at ever again.

I do think that there is a way to incorporate a certain element of this in a powerful way,

which is not necessarily you have a uniform.

You're not wearing the same shirt every day.

I know this is something that a lot of people do.

I definitely have a formula.

Even though I might switch things up in that formula, my formula is pretty unchanging.

It usually is straight leg jeans and an oversized button-down shirt or a tee shirt with a high-waisted

skirt.

I might have every color of the rainbow of button up shirt and every color of the rainbow

of my favorite pair of jeans.

It's not the same thing every day, even though it almost is the same thing every day.

I've found what works for me.

It's this base which I can build upon.

If I were Mark Zuckerberg, I probably would add a few different colors to my wardrobe.

Decision fatigue is a real thing, and particularly as a woman when we get dressed, there are

many options afforded to us.

I have always envied many male wardrobes because it's straightforward.

It's easy to get a pair of jeans and a pair of shoes.

You don't have to think too much about getting dressed because everything works for you.

That's a challenge that some women have is that there are many options available to

us.

It's hard to weed through what matters to us.

The first step towards eliminating decision fatigue in your wardrobe is to, whether it's

to do it yourself, to enlist a trusted friend or to hire a stylist.

Styling is something that I do as well of the many hats that I wear.

To find someone who can help you identify what makes you feel powerful, comfortable

and you're not tugging at your clothes all the time.

Once you know that, it becomes easier to shop.

You know that you're going to keep your eye out for every A-line skirt or that you

love crew neck shirts.

It becomes a puzzle game of, "I know that I have this dress and I need one jacket that's

going to go over it, that can go with twelve different things."

It becomes easier to shop this way because you can identify the holes in your closet

and find the things that play well with what you already own.

Rather than feeling you have to start from square one every single morning.

While Mark Zuckerberg's example is super extreme, I do think that there's something

to learn there, which is that finding what makes you feel confident, that's intangible.

That can't ever be overstated that importance.

By having a closet that you can look at and see everything easily, that's such a big

thing as well.

Getting matching hangers, organizing things by type and then color, it takes some time

and effort to do that.

You'll never have to do it again because once you see everything that's there, it

becomes such a joy to get dressed in the morning.

You have this new ownership over your closet in what you wear because you know where everything

is.

That is something I would recommend to every single one is making a point to have your

closet be as tight and well-thought out as possible.

Eliminate any of that difficulty about what you wear when you get dressed in the morning.

That would look like what?

In terms of the layout of the closet, you'd put all of the different shades together,

different jeans and stuff or go, "These are my blue jeans.

These are my white jeans.

These are my dark jeans."

How does this work?

I am a big fan of Marie Kondo's The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

I don't think that it's for everyone.

Some elements of it are extreme.

I do think there are some important messages in there.

The first one is that in order to reach this closet goal for you, the first thing that

you have to do is take literally everything out of your closet.

You have to hold every single thing.

You have to touch it and ask yourself if it sparks joy.

Some things you might keep because you love them, but you never wear them.

That's okay.

You've got to take everything out.

You need to buy matching hangers because I find that having hangers that aren't the

same color adds too much visual confusion.

I do like huggable hangers for this reason.

They're the thin, lightweight ones that have a velvety cover, so they're nice on

your clothes.

When it's time to put everything back in, first you separate by type.

Your short sleeve shirts are separate from your long sleeve shirts.

Your jeans are separate from your slacks.

Your blazers are separate from your cardigans.

Things that are dark and heavy go on the left and move into a light colored and light in

weight to the right.

You separate it by type and then you separate it by color.

You want everything to face the same way.

It's visually such a treat to be able to open your closet and look at it like this.

I also do this in my drawers.

While I was writing 50 Ways to Wear Accessories, I used all of my own clothes and accessories

in that book.

Every single day I would illustrate in the morning, then in the afternoon I would make

the biggest mess trying clothes, putting on outfits, taking pictures of myself, trying

on more things, taking more pictures.

Every night I had to clean up this mess so that I could do it again the next day.

Having an organized closet was paramount to that process.

It's something I've never deflected from.

It's something that also has made it a lot easier for me to shop because I have a limited

number of hangers and space.

If I want to buy something, I have to ask myself, "What am I willing to give up to

make space for this?

Is what I have going to serve this better?"

It's been an empowering facet of my life.

Particularly to a sense of the work that I do, I have to walk the walk and talk the talk.

My closet is a source of pride and joy for me.

I can attribute to how powerful this seemingly insignificant strategy is in your life because

I brought in a stylist.

We did a closet cleanse.

We've got all new hangers and they were all matching.

She helped me organize after we got rid of a whole bunch of stuff.

I'm a big fan of Marie Kondo as well and asking that question, "Does it spark joy?"

before I decide whether to keep it or to donate it.

A lot of stuff went out the door.

Some things I thought, "I like this," and my stylist says, "No, this is not fashionable

anymore or this is dated or, this is not a good look."

I took her advice on board.

Once in a while, I would override her.

For the most part, I trusted her judgment.

What we ended up with was a closet that did inspire joy and pride in me.

I am not as good at figuring out how the different shades go.

If it's a light gray versus a dark gray, I'm pretty good at being able to figure

out where that goes in the closet.

She had set it up when we worked together.

I appreciate you saying that you brought in a professional because I do think it's intimidating

to do yourself.

Honestly, it's work that I do and I wish that I could clone myself to do it for myself

sometimes.

It's much easier to have someone come in with foreign fresh eyes and see the bigger

picture when you yourself are stuck in the middle of it.

One thing that Marie Kondo does say is that there will be a few things you regret getting

rid of.

There are definitely a few things which I feel like I paid my sacrifice to the god of

cleaning up in order to have a good closet.

I wish I hadn't gotten rid of it but ultimately, I'd rather have gotten rid of that than

have the great closet that I do now.

It's such an important thing to do for you and particularly for my clients that I do

this for.

Part of the most joyful aspect for them as well is that they don't have to buy something

new.

They're shopping in their closet.

They're putting in this investment and this commitment to stuff that they already own,

which I think is such a beautiful thing.

Many of the clothes and accessories that I use in my books and on my blog, My Closet

in Sketches, were things that were passed down to me from my mom, my grandmother or

from clients.

That makes them special.

It's not only special but also is a green, friendly practice.

The day and age of fast fashion hopefully is something that people are waking up to

its detrimental effects.

A big part of helping that is by not buying new things.

To go through your closet and have a good hold on what you already wear and learning

how to shop your own closet, it doesn't just feel good for your style, it also is

a good, green practice.

What worked very well was getting that stylist to help me do the closet cleanse to help me

figure out new pairings of different shirts, pants and vests.

I had never worn those combinations before.

It never even occurred to me.

You get in this rut where you do the same pairings over and over again.

That gets boring.

You get myopic in that viewpoint and you can't see that, "This particular shirt could go

with three other pairs of pants," and you never tried them.

Hopefully, you were able to save those ideas.

That's one thing that my clients always liked to have is all those outfit ideas that

I've created whether they have them in a folder on their phone or they print them out

and put it in a binder having them ready to go-to so that you can refer to them is a nice,

quick, easy fix.

My favorite surprise side effect of writing this 50 Ways to Wear series has been seeing

how people interpret my words and my illustrations into their own life.

Once I've finished a book, it almost isn't mine anymore.

It goes out into the world and it takes on its own life.

It is such a joy for me to see how people take those ideas and make them into something

unique for themselves.

That is a goal of mine through this creation process is that you'll read it and think,

"I have something that looks that.

I never thought about pairing them together."

The fact that everything is illustrated by me is also approachable.

Sometimes it's hard to imagine yourself when you're looking at a picture of someone

else.

If it's an illustration and there's no face attached to it, it's a drawing.

It's much easier to go into that place and picture yourself in that spot.

I'm excited about this book and to see how it is adopted into people's lives.

My book is available from Chronicle Books.

You can preorder it wherever books are sold, Amazon, Barnes & Noble.

It's always great to buy from your local bookstore.

It does well as a gift.

My first book, in particular, 50 Ways to Wear A Scarf, I have been known and have heard

of people giving it as a gift and wrapping the book with a scarf.

This accessories book I can see being a nice way to tack on a little something extra if

you're buying someone some accessories.

You can go to your local bookstore or on

Amazon.com and buy it and get it straight away.

How did you end up deciding to do illustrations?

That added a significant amount of work to the creation of this book.

I will start by saying that everyone who knew me as a little kid is not surprised by what

I'm doing now.

Not only was I always changing my outfit three times a day, but I was always drawing.

My mom is an architect.

She taught me how to do perspective when I was a little kid.

I was always taking art classes.

I had graduated in the year 2009.

I had a normal 9 to 5 job, and then another normal 9 to 5 job.

I was tired of coming home from work and looking at another screen after staring at a screen

all day.

I had majored in political science in college and I played field hockey.

I didn't go on an artistic path.

I found that I was missing that creative aspect.

This was also around the time that I was starting to inherit some of my Grandmother Enid's

clothes.

When I came home from work, I would make up a crazy outfit.

I'd give it a name and a story.

I'd illustrate it.

It became this blog called My Closet in Sketches.

I started it in 2010.

Putting something out there on the internet like that quickly afforded me incredible opportunities.

I was illustrating for the now-defunct Lucky Magazine every month.

I had no idea what I was doing.

It was very much a fake it until you make it situation.

When I had the opportunity to become a full-time illustrator, a friend of mine encouraged me

to write down my one-year, my five-year and my ten-year goals.

Under my one-year goal, I wrote that I wanted to publish a book with Chronicle Books.

I had always loved their offerings.

I knew that they'd been publishing people who are on the internet.

I wrote down this wish, this goal, and about a year and a half later, Hurricane Sandy was

happening on the East Coast.

I was tucked in with a blanket at a friend's apartment watching nature documentaries.

I got an email from an editor at Chronicle Books, who had seen a post I had done on My

Closet in Sketches website.

It was a post about how to wear a scarf.

It was drawings and writing.

She asked me to write and illustrate 50 Ways to Wear a Scarf.

It was completely shocking to me.

I couldn't even believe that this thing I had written down was showing up in my email

a year and a half later.

It's very much an example of being careful what you wish for.

I didn't know the first thing about writing a book, but I knew I couldn't say no.

I did the words and illustration for 50 Ways to Wear A Scarf and that came out in 2014.

Here we are with 50 Ways To Wear Accessories.

The illustrations to me are as important as the writing.

I couldn't ever separate either of them in my career.

I know that the experience of having an amazing publishing house asking me to write a book

is incredibly lucky and amazing.

This opportunity, the fact that I still am able to write books is beyond me.

It represents many dreams realized.

The universe looking out for you when you're ready to step into that new opportunity.

The work of illustrating these books is incredibly time-consuming, but it's all worth it in

the end.

Talk about the power of manifestation, the Law of Attraction.

I have a little bit of an impostor syndrome.

Since I am a self-taught illustrator, I keep waiting for someone to say, "You're a

fraud.

You don't know what you're doing."

Whenever I have those moments of doubt, all I have to do is remember that this opportunity

was given to me by a greater source.

It immediately puts things in relief.

It puts things in perspective about what this opportunity means to me.

It's special to me.

It's important for me to also have people hear that story because success looks like

such a specific thing from the outside.

Everyone thinks they're a fraud sometimes.

Everyone has that first goal, that first step that has to start somewhere.

The more people that can hear that story and understand the importance of following your

creative path and listening to what you want to do inside is important.

Who knows how that could manifest into something in the future?

It's a special tale for me.

I can relate to the impostor syndrome thing.

I was talking about this on a previous episode with Elissa Fisher Harris.

She's got some expertise in that area.

She gave me this powerful insight that I probably have impostor syndrome.

It's probably in the form of something I'd never even heard of called Comparative Success

Syndrome, where I'm comparing myself to who I could have been if I had made different

choices.

I didn't follow my passion or I didn't make the right call earlier in life, then

I could have done something completely different.

I'm a shell of what I could have been because of that.

That's insightful.

It gave me a construct, a framework that I could then deal with.

Impostor syndrome never was the exact best fit.

It's like, "I can see how I feel like a fraud," but it more resonated with me

when I recognized that I had Comparative Success Syndrome, a related form of impostor syndrome.

That's an interesting framework through which to think of it because particularly

where I'm at in my career, the fact that this book is coming out, it's always funny

timing with book publishing.

I mentally have already moved past it.

Now it's at the forefront.

I am my own boss.

I am the one who determines what steps I'm going to take.

It's this fear of a zero-sum game that if I make one decision, it eliminates all these

other decisions.

I've read something somewhere about how your self-worth isn't tied into your to-do-list.

For me, it is.

If I don't have a lot of my to-do list, I'm literally not worth as much at that

moment.

It's important and it's a constant work for me.

I love this term, Comparative Success Syndrome.

It feels like it speaks to me very much so at this time.

You're constantly making choices as a professional and as a human being.

It's important to recognize that where you are in that moment is where you're supposed

to be.

The right choices are there for you.

I think about this intuitive voice a lot.

A friend of mine once said that your rational mind will tell a million different stories

about why you shouldn't or should do something.

Your intuitive voice is just a yes or no.

"Do I want to do this?

Yes or no?"

The more we listen to that intuitive voice, the stronger it is and the easier it is to

listen to it.

As it relates to my professional career and coming full circle as it relates to getting

dressed, we all know clearly what we feel comfortable with, what we want to wear every

day, what we want to be doing every day.

That intuitive voice says it quite clearly.

It's a matter of listening to it.

My hope with the work I do and the work I put out there is that it will encourage people

to listen to that voice and honor what they want inside of them.

We could all be much better off if we found a way to detach ourselves and unyoke from

this comparative success and drama.

We all began to embrace our own unique talents as we all deserve to do.

If somebody wanted to work with you on a consulting coaching basis, do you offer anything like

that?

I want to make sure that we can send you great clients if that's something that you're

looking for.

You can find me at LaurenFriedman.com.

I am available for hire for illustration commissions and styling advice.

I am working myself on doing some bigger coaching and teaching that will be available online.

Thank you, Lauren.

Thank you, readers, for taking this little different episode and taking it to heart because

fashion is not necessarily superficial.

It can be but it can also be a way of reflecting your inner self to the outer world.

Thank you and we'll catch you on the next episode of The

Optimized Geek.

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Breaking News - America's patriotic shirts among fashion errors in Ryder Cup history - Duration: 6:07.

The 42nd edition of the Ryder Cup officially gets underway when the first ball is struck at Le Golf National in France on Friday morning

The Americans are slight favourites to retain the crown they won at Hazeltine two years ago but their recent form away from home gives every indication Europe could regain bragging rights

Justin Rose and Jon Rahm will take on Brooks Koepka and Tony Finau in the first of Friday's fourball matches after the pairings were announced by captains Thomas Bjorn and Jim Furyk during Thursday's opening ceremony

While both teams will hope to do their talking on the course over the next three days, some groups throughout history have left a lot to be desired in terms of their kit

Over the course of the competition's history there have been a number of horrific outfits worn by certain teams

Here, Sportsmail charts some of the worst threads to grace the illustrious history of the Ryder Cup

Americans make no effort to hide their patriotism but the team's shirts in 1999 took their love for their homeland to the next level

Their jerseys featured a host of pictures of previous US Ryder Cup teams sprawled all over it

Phil Mickelson, Tiger Woods and Davis Love III were pictured roaring in celebration as they helped the Americans to a 14½ - 13½ victory at The Country Club in Brookline, Massachusetts

The final day was certainly one to forget for Europe. They led 10–6 heading into the final round, needing only four points on the final day to retain the title, but let it slip to a resurgent America

While that shirt holds special memories for some, Tiger Woods wanted to quickly forget it

'I threw it in the fireplace over Christmas and burned it,' he once told ESPN. 'It was so ugly

It provided more warmth for the house.' Mickelson and Woods were partners for two matches in 2004 and it's fair to say things didn't go smoothly

They were first beaten by Colin Montgomerie and Padraig Harrington on the opening day before combining in defeat against Darren Clarke and Lee Westwood

Perhaps the worst thing about their partnership though was the kit they wore. Looking more at home at Twickenham than the golf course, America kitted themselves out in blue polo shirts with white stripes and grey trousers

Woods accompanied his with a grey cardigan but he looked far from impressed with the outfit

The Americans also fell to a comprehensive 9½ - 18½ defeat at Oakland Hills Country Club, the largest by a European team in the history of the event

In the same year, the victorious Europeans touched down at Heathrow Airport in some atrocious clothing

Bernhard Langer's champions certainly couldn't be missed in the arrivals hall as they posed for a photo in mustard suede jackets, grey trousers and brown loafers

Sergio Garcia, Paul Casey, Lee Westwood and Ian Poulter were all members of that group and will compete this year, while former captains Clarke and Paul McGinley were also present in that team

Two years later at The K Club in Kildare and the Americans had clearly not learned their fashion lesson

Chris DiMarco and colleague Tiger Woods can be seen shaking hands on the 18th green wearing some awful jumpers more suited to men 40 years their senior

Mainly brown, the jumpers featured white patterned stripes across the entire body with a white Ryder Cup trophy stitched into the centre

It seemed the US had not learned from their mistakes on the course either as they fell to another heavy defeat, this time losing 18½ - 9½

The year 2006 also proved to be a questionable one for the victorious Europeans

In an attempt to look suave and trendy as they lifted the trophy in Ireland, they did in fact look like a boy band supergroup preparing to tour holiday parks across the UK

They bizarrely opted to pair light pink blazers with white turtlenecks as they posed for a celebratory team photo

After a relatively low key event in 2008, on the fashion front anyway, the Americans' poor taste come back to prominence at Celtic Manor in 2010

Bubba Watson was among Corey Pavin's team in Wales and he can be seen below showcasing their awful lavender pullovers on the second day of action

America's abysmal away form continued but they did produce an impressive performance to narrowly lose 14½ - 13½ with Graeme McDowell defeating Hunter Mahan to regain the title for Europe

The hosts also left a lot to be desired in 2010 as they embraced a plain black and white colour scheme for their outfits

Italian brothers Francesco (L) and Eduardo Molinari didn't look overly amused with their attire for the day as they prepared to make their debuts in the competition

The polo shirts had a bizarre grey pattern down the right hand side of the tops while there was a random black line of material coming from the right chest to just past the buttons

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