Hey everyone this is Bridget and today I'll give you my top 5 tips on how to
have a healthy romantic relationship! We just celebrated our five-year
anniversary so I wanted to give you my five real tips that worked in helping
our relationships thrive and moving through challenges so that you can have
some template of modeling of what a healthy relationship would be. If you're
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sure to watch to the end because I have some controversial tips in this video so
I want to make sure you catch those because it's probably something you've
never heard before. My first tip getting into it quite simply is having
dedicated special time together so this looks like a date night at least once a
week or two times a week or a day that you spend together that is special very
concentrated on the appreciation for each other because one of the things
that happens in relationships especially long-term relationships living together
spending a lot of time together is that everything just becomes flatter or you
know kind of tensions build or it's pretty good this kind of like slight
rollercoaster but not too much and so it's very important to infuse that
passion that connection that appreciation dedicated presence to each
other because when you're in each other's lives
it ends up being that it's just kind of you're at each other's periphery and
might not have that dedicated focus and when you do that it creates greater
depth of connection because you might think that you know exactly what's going
on with your partner because you're with them a lot but there might be something
deeper that never got to be asked for or it evoked from each other to realize
that there's something more going on there in a beautiful way and also to
spend these times together so that it can rekindle attraction can
action and appreciation so this specific dedicated time for date nights and
special communions together is critical to the success of a long-term
relationship number two is radical honesty now the
thing is is if you have this connected bonded relationship that you have
cultivated to say through these date nights these dedicated special times you
know that you're in love you know that you're connected you know that you're
feeling and seeing each other in a bright light so that wouldn't you need
to bring things up and be honest with each other
there already is that dedicated space that foundation of deepened connection
on say a weekly level and that's really important because one of the reasons
that people don't want to be honest is they're scared of what the other person
might do will the other person leave while the other person get mad or the
other person say no and so what happens is we kind of like hide this this stuff
that we might want to address maybe things from the past resentments things
that trigger us and those just kind of stay bottled up in the side sidelines
and you know what I'm talking about comment below if you've seen this before
where you see relationships and people in couples over long term and it feels
really uncomfortable to be around them because you're like wow you guys have
got a lot of stuff going on or there's that digging comment or those kinds of
things and you can feel it in the fields the energy field of the couple and it's
just not healthy and it's not fun for either of you so it feels kind of
counterintuitive to be like alright let's bring up the dirty mess in the
closet and really address it because one of the things that happens is when
you're in proximity so much is so easily to be in that triggered space especially
if it's something that's come up over time for a long time and so it's
challenging to be in a present kind loving space to then address these
things so developing really clear and loving communication is critical and I'm
going to do a whole video on that with Patrick about
and communication because that's fundamental to a healthy relationship
but nonetheless just starting to get that idea that we really have to be
completely honest with our partners and that develops intimacy that develops
connection so to begin creating a space for that is to return to a place of
cultivated appreciation and love and depth with each other which can happen
through such things as date nights radical honesty is also with yourself of
how you're feeling of what you need of you bringing up crap from the past and
being honest about maybe the things that you could do better on your end so it's
not just about the other person so it's really about radical honesty of taking
responsibility for yourself in the relationship and when you do that and
when you take that in then you can let it transform in you and that'll help if
the relationship because then the person will feel open to that space of you
taking responsibility for that and you're not on the defence number three
is a common vision what is the relationship for like why are you in
relationship right if you ever asked that question asked that question to
your partner asked that question to yourself it's a very important question
and for me one of the things in our relationship that's so pivotal is
personal growth development because relationships especially intimate
relationships are an absolute mirror and bring up your stuff and are very
revealing also can be very confronting because they're so deep and connective
and can be quite vulnerable and scary so it's a real place for growth and
learning and so that's one of the reasons that I love actually being in a
partnership now customarily people are in relationships because that's what
you're supposed to do and you like you know you're attracted the other person
you want to have sex or end up living together or you know something happens
or that's just what you think you're supposed to do but actually having a
clear and defined vision for wieder together makes it really easy then when
you need to have those honest conversations to go okay we said that
we're all about really becoming better people and really
becoming more loving so let's have this conversation and if you already have a
foundation of what your vision for the relationship is then the other person
can be like oh okay I agreed to that so let me move site my
trigger let me move aside my ego in this moment and and go towards the common
goal of the relationship and this means also being on the same team you're going
towards something together and that's really significant too so clearly
defining what is the vision of the relationship and why are you in the
relationship in the first place so it's very important to clarify now number
four is the controversial one okay let me just do me a little story here but
this is worth it okay so I had a boyfriend when I was 22 and he was 32 so
he was a bit older more experienced two had girlfriends they had lived with for
years so he had experience and relationships and what worked and what
didn't work and one of the things that he said to me is that I can't sleep in
the same room with you nor could i with the other girlfriends because I need to
be in my own energy and I was absolutely devastated I was like like what is wrong
with me even though he said that that was the same with all of his girlfriends
it was something that they had figured out that doesn't work and this is an
interesting a concept so let's get into it a little bit the idea of maintaining
your own energy in a relationship it seems counter to because it's a
relationship so we're supposed to be together right and we have these painted
pictures from fairytale movies and romantic comedies that you're supposed
to just be like this forever you know every day every night and have this like
passion and connection and depth 100% of the time and it's just not to reality I
think maybe some people have that I've never met those people but one of the
things that if you're not that kind of person what can work whether you're a
codependent person or not you're a very free person is that we need to maintain
or own personal soul sovereignty we have
our own beautiful essence and is meant to express things in the world and so
what happens when we are making love with our partner all the time or in
their space all the time is our auras become intertwined we can't use that
idea of like two people becoming one and in ways yes that's going to happen there
are going to be commonalities and that merging of energy and consciousness is
beautiful and at the same time it's not really sustainable because we didn't
come in as one person we came in is two people so it's very important to develop
this and maintain individual sovereignty within relationship now why no I don't
want to so you might be asking why what is the advantage to me keeping my
individual sovereignty one it really helps that resentment and triggering in
the field that is actually the part of your soul that starts to get angry
because it wants to express itself its own way so that's one of the advantages
but the huge advantage is it actually creates much more attraction and sexual
energy so this idea of after the honeymoon phase and things fade and
there might not be as much sexual activity or attraction is in my opinion
connected to this merging of energies where you're so each other's energies
that there's no polarity anymore there's no synergy to then create the attraction
to then continue to develop in a sexual sensual manner I have a video on this
you can go check it out so one of the things that we've done for the past five
years is we've had separate bedrooms okay so this stemmed from my
relationship with this guy that I was devastated about
but then after I got over my own ego wounding so possibly not being enough
for whatever I realized it was actually genius and this is something that I've
developed in relationships and this has created an immense
of attraction and excitement to be together when you haven't been together
for a night of sleep so it is a real amazing trick and I would recommend it
if this is something again controversial to say your partner show them this video
and then it doesn't have to be necessarily coming from your mouth but
they can maybe see some of the advantages to it it's been really
amazing for me to continue on my own spiritual journey and have my own dreams
literally my own dream space and for my partner as well and other friends and
such have had wonderful experiences with it too it's really important if you're
empathic it's really important if you're a sensitive sleeper and it's really
important if you're on a spiritual journey so that you can accelerate in
your own direction and the thing is is that when you then kind of build back up
that energy of you and you come back together it's so much more vital and
alive just in the sharing and the connection and the depth so another
piece of this is maintaining your individuality within the relationship so
there's the energetic of maybe sleeping in different rooms but there's also the
idea of maintaining your own individual interests and sovereignty because this
then creates something new to come back to and to share and having other
experiences with other friends or doing things that you love is so important to
your own heart and souls desire so that you feel alive and vibrant and I feel
one of the reasons that people get like crusty and negative in long-term
relationships is because they've sacrificed everything that they are and
everything that they've loved and when we actually include that and we make it
inclusive within the relationship the relationship can be so much more juicy
and vibrant and new and fresh all the time now number five which is the exact
opposite of that is maintaining common interests so funny enough uni it's
important to have separate interests and that you love and passions you pursue on
your own and not needing your other partner to do that
with you and then the other piece is to have common interests because the thing
is is if you go towards this path radical honesty you start doing all the
things that you love and then also you just might not have any commonality and
that might tell you something so that's something to look out for but also in
that space that's really important to add into the vision add into the energy
pot of the relationship well what do we want to develop together what do we want
to do together and this goes a little bit back to the visioning and so when
you have these common interests together it makes it so much again more dynamic
and fun like maybe you exercise together maybe you do spiritual courses together
maybe you travel together there's certain things that you develop and
enrich and have those vital experiences together so that's also very important
as well is this separate energy and this connective energy so that you're growing
in the same direction because one of the challenges that come up in a lot of
long-term relationships is that one person is like like accelerating
whatever that may mean that I mean in health in in spirituality in these
different categories and then the other partner is just complacent and not doing
anything we're not going in that direction and so all of a sudden you're
two different people and that's where the challenges start so it's really
important to come together and see if you do have those common interests and
the common vision of what you want to create in a relationship together so
that it is vibrant and alive and a living breathing being of your guyses
connection and intimacy so these have been my top five keys to have and
cultivate a healthy long-term romantic relationship and I hope you've enjoyed
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