hi I'm so glad to see you thanks for stopping by as a single man are you
interested in building a relationship that will last a lifetime or would you
rather move into something temporary that only serves your needs for the moment
I've been thinking about the similarities between building a house
and building a relationship it takes a big investment to build a home where you
and your family can live and grow throughout your lives but if you only
want a shelter for the night or weekend you can borrow or rent something
temporary that temporary shelter could be anything from a camping tent to a
high-dollar hotel room depending on how much money you want to spend and the
level of comfort you desire then when you've had your fun it's time to go back
to the way things were before your brief vacation this temporary fulfillment of
your desires can be invigorating and refreshing
however the letdown at the end of the weekend caused by losing the things you
want most like fun excitement and companionship that brings you comfort
and delight can be draining and depressing in the end that little bit of
heaven is only an illusion that winds up costing you more than it's worth that's
why most of us desire more than just a temporary fix of a one-night stand we
want to have somebody to share time with who will be there when the vacation is
over and real life and loneliness become our usual roommate it takes time and a
series of progressive steps to build a great house or lasting relationship if
you try to cut corners or skip steps it will quickly fall apart but when
properly built we have a lifetime of comfort and quality to enjoy consider
the following five steps to building a relationship like we build a house that
is meant to last for decades number one site preparation just as it is necessary
to clear and level the lot to build a solid
foundation for your home we must get ready to create the foundation for our
relationship through preparation techniques in my video from sad and
single to relationship ready I explain the six steps you can take to do the
work necessary to clear away any obstacles remove negative thinking and
patterns and be completely open to creating a solid foundation and
relationship with a partner this step must always come first so we don't carry
the baggage of past bad experiences into our new home and bury it underground
causing cracks and potential problems in the future
number two complete a sturdy foundation often the sewer pipe and sometimes much
of the electrical conduit are embedded in the slab this indicates that part of
building the foundation of a relationship is having a system in place
to drain out the negative and power the positive go back and revisit my videos
that present the attune and Venus talk communication methods these techniques
will increase the bond between you and a potential mate along with providing an
outlet for negative feelings to be dealt with so you both can let go of them then
you can increase the positive feelings you have for each other
and the spark of passion will stay alive throughout your partnership through
regular communication and shared experiences your bond will become as
strong as concrete providing the solid foundation necessary for a long-term
commitment to a lifetime of love number 3 framing the same way that using
plywood gives a wall rigidity and provides more strength erecting a frame
around a relationship provides us with shared understanding that gives us
strength along with a feeling of safety when we are ready to exclusively date
another person it is time to talk with our partner about our needs desires and
non-negotiables discussing our boundaries of what we will allow with
our walls and what is to be kept out inspires respect for each other and the
relationship when we spend time defining how things work best for us along with
what we can and will do in the future we express our integrity and honesty which
leads to intimacy for example do you want to be exclusive with each other do
you want to get married someday do you want to have children what would cause
you to break up the relationship what commitments do you have that will
affect your future outstanding debt family obligations prior marriages or
children all need to be talked about while in the initial framing process
within the framing for the house are windows doors and accommodations for
internal walls windows provide the joy of light fresh air and the ability to
see what is happening in the world around us while still feeling secure the
doors give us a way to leave when we need to grab an opportunity like a new
job or additional education and then return through that same door to find
support and comfort accommodations for internal walls means we recognize that
although we are now a couple each of us is still a unique individual and we need
our own space to think and grow as a person even though we have these
protective inner walls that give us time alone for self-care we still live
together within the house and share those external walls that define our
relationship as a couple number four the roof once the framing of the walls
windows and doors is complete it's time to add the roof in a relationship the
roof installation is the point of total commitment that means we will stick
together through sunny days and storms this is when a couple gets engaged or
moves in together and announces to the world that they are committed to a
long-term relationship most of us don't think much about the roof on our home
unless it leaks or needs repair that's how it should be with this commitment if
we've done the work of communicating and invested the time
necessary to build a proper foundation through bonding and defined the framing
together then adding the roof of commitment is the next logical step and
it is something we obviously want and need not something we fear in the future
should the roof leak or need repair we must see to it immediately or suffer the
consequences of expensive damage or rot so if a hurricane of difficult
circumstances such as infidelity serious illness or addiction crashes all around
you and your partner seek the help of a couples counselor right away to avoid
the expensive damage of divorce number 5 plumbing and electrical working well
together as a couple requires that you discover the things that bring you
happiness and fix the things that don't keep your pipes running smoothly through
daily communication plumbing also requires venting to allow pressure to
escape a good friend or family member can provide a vent for you when you need
to release the built-up pressure from work or other problems if you can get
your complaints out of your system before you come home
it will be easier to stay positive and find solutions within your love
relationship continue to power your positive feelings for each other by
following through on your promises meeting each other's needs whenever
possible and spending as much quality time together as you can
I've made several videos that address the many ways to keep your wife or
girlfriend happy watch them again if you need more ideas to inspire positive
charge sparking through your relationship
number six finishing the final step in the process of building a great house a
relationship is finishing up with the decorative and functional features that
make it your home every home and every relationship is unique to the
individuals that live within it one couple may prefer black and white
structure with straight even lines and another may want to experiment with
color and texture and change the furnishings around frequently
just as innovation and invention give us new options and appliances colors and
surfaces relationships should evolve into what works for that couple it could
mean having a relationship that is very different from what your parents
experienced don't rule anything out simply because it is non-traditional
what matters is that it is comfortable functional and enjoyable for both of you
sometimes it requires compromising on her non-negotiables so she will
compromise on yours but when there is a sturdy foundation built by the two of
you through love communication and commitment a happy long-term
relationship is the reward build a relationship the same way you build a
house taking the time to get each step done right before moving on to the next
step and you will learn to know yourself and your mate thoroughly and intimately
then your partnership will grow and flourish and the years to come follow
these five steps when you build a relationship with a life partner a
family member or a close friend and your life will be more fulfilling and
positive than you can imagine let me know if you've used these steps or if
you feel I've missed any steps in building a relationship by leaving a
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for meeting with me we'll talk again soon the softer side


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