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Hello everyone.

So today I'd like to talk about the question, "Why do we feel hurt by others?"

Now I feel that this is very very complex to go into because we can either talk about

this using our own ideas trying to overcome our hurt with tips or tricks or techniques

or we can look at and stay with this hurt in order to see it unveil itself and see all

the implications and everything that goes on when we feel hurt.

And therefore, by really seeing what is involved in being hurt at its deepest core, like psychologically,

then that very seeing is understanding and it's immediately... the whole problem is solved.

So that is what I want us to go into together, is to go into the core, which is the psychological

aspect and really see what's going on.

So this implies that each of us not only, just me talking, but each of us individually

has to look for ourselves what I'm talking about in this video because what I say maybe

turned into just, blah.

Just some ideas that have no meaning at all.

So why do we feel hurt?

What is the reason for my feeling sad, angry, upset or afraid?

Now is it because I have an idea about myself?

Now why do I have this idea about myself?

Is it because when I look around me, I see that other people are looking out for themselves,

are concerned for themselves, their own improvement, their own gain, their own success?

And as a young child growing up, coming out into the world, I'm innocent, being born,

but you know as I get into the groove of things and I look at how my parents are, how my friends

and other family members are, I begin to see that everyone is concerned for themselves.

And they help me to see that I am also an individual who must be concerned for myself,

my safety, my comfort.

What am I going to be doing for a livelihood when I get older or what will I do to survive?

What will I be to impress others, to impress a nice lady and marry and have children and

just have all these fabulous ideas of a future happy life?

So this being the culture that we live in, we look at each other and say, okay, well

that person is doing this sort of thing right?

That person is making a lot of YouTube videos, that person is dressing in a nice business

suit, that person is telling me all these tips and tricks through his videos.

So I want to imitate that person because I see that hey, you know, he has a big following,

a lot of subscribers, they're all just commenting, praising him.

So I say I want that.

So I see that and the very seeing of this person...

I record that person, I have an idea about him that I try to pursue and become... or

this gets very complex... or I don't need to try and become that image, I can also just

say that I'm that image.

I can repeat it repeat it over and over again and feel that I am this.

I have a sense of being this really big important person.

So I have this image and then someone comes and they intervene between me and my own personal

pursuits and they say, hey, you know, you're very contradicting.

You're wrong about this, this and this, so you're full of crap.

So now I'm either trying to become this great, intelligent man or I already think that I'm

this great intelligent man and then you say these words to me and... what happens?

What goes on when I hear these words and I register it in my brain?

So you call me crap.

So now I feel this kind of resistance.

I don't like you because you disturbed my idea of myself.

You disturb me.

So therefore, I try to avoid you.

I fear you.

I don't want you around me.

I go off I isolate myself into my own particular area and I then try to surround myself with

positive people or people who support me, who encourage me, who lift me up, right?

So therefore, when we are hurt, we try to escape that hurt, you know, we try to find

some encouragement, we try to go away.

However, that hurt is still there, it doesn't dissolve the hurt, it doesn't eliminate it.

So that's what I want us to explore together, is how can we dissolve this hurt completely?

Not try to just ignore it, run away, do something else, occupy our time with movies or something

else.

Find motivation, motivating speakers and then only to just... then again, get hurt and start

the cycle over again.

So to completely be free of this hurt would be to completely be free of ideas about ourselves

right?

Not free from an idea of our self as in being nothing or nobody, because what happens when

we do that?

We say I want to be free of ideas about myself because once I have an idea about myself,

I am open to getting hurt.

I'm vulnerable.

So therefore, I will not have any idea about myself.

I will be nobody.

Immediately though, when we say that I won't have an idea about myself, I won't live

with ideas about myself, then I feel that I'm nobody.

I feel that I'm nothing, which is now an idea about myself.

We may call it nobody or nothing, but that is still an idea.

So ideas, thought, is very complex because it takes different forms.

So therefore, are we seeing this?

Not only intellectually, like okay, yeah, I see that I'm making another idea if I say

I'm not having ideas.

Not only seeing that intellectually, but seeing it as a real fact.

Like right now I'm looking at this window and it is real it is actually there.

So therefore, the window is there and if I want to go out outside of the window I can,

I just open and I just go out.

Action is immediate.

It's there, it's real, but if I don't see this idea as like a real fact, what's all

implied in having an idea about myself…

If I don't see that as an actual real fact, then there's not any real action is there?

There's just kind of contemplation... like... well... maybe... what if the idea?... or this

and that... or I try to reason it out.

So instead I'm just thinking about it all the time instead of there any being real action,

right?

So therefore, are we seeing that we do have an image about ourselves and that…

What are we if this image is not there?

I have this image that I'm this successful businessman and I'm dressed up in my business

suit and I go to my conventions and I speak very proudly, I give you tips and tricks and

all that, but then once all that is over and I put on regular pajamas and I'm getting ready

for bed, I'm just like everyone else, in pajamas.

So that image is not who we are, that idea that I'm a businessman is not me, because

what I really am is shifting from being in my pajamas, a sleeper.

I'm shifting from being a father, putting on normal, fatherly clothes...

I don't know what kind of clothes fathers wear or generally and doing different things...

we identify ourselves based off of how we look or the activities that we engage in and

we have so many images about ourselves that we try to make one permanent and therefore,

we resist other images, right?

So it's very complex, but like I said... in this video I want us to discuss together

over these things and try and see all the implications, all the complexities that are

involved in this.

So that we can find out for ourselves, not just be lazy and look for a quick tip or quick,

helpful idea and answer that will just magically solve all this because that doesn't solve

all of it.

It only invents another idea, which becomes another problem.

So to really find out how we can live free of this hurt, of this thing called hurt and

pain.

We've got to go into the psychological, the core of all of this, because we've been trying

to solve it through going to teachers, gurus, spiritual people and that doesn't fix it completely.

So that's all I wanted to talk about in this video and I'll see you all next time, bye.